CHANGE BY CHOICE

 CHANGE BY CHOICE OR YOU’LL HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO CHANGE

One of the most effective ways in dealing with stress is to change by choice. You see, if you don’t change by choice, sooner or later, you’ll have no choice, but to change. What do we mean by this? Our own conscious mind is constantly giving us feedback. It’s like a barometer. How we’re tracking in our life.

We need to look at this both in our personal life and we can look at it in business life to make things more effective and give us more options. When you change early, you have many options available and the job is easier. While we tend to resist change, let’s face it, change is the only constant. Night changes into day, day into night. We change our clothes every day. We change the food we eat.

These are things that are easy to do, but when it comes to more serious things in our life, we tend to stick to our old ways because it takes more effort to make those changes. Let’s look at it more in our personal life to begin with. Say if you’re put on a few kilos, if you’d take note of this, your own conscious mind is giving you a signal,  manifesting as a physical sense in your body that what you’re doing isn’t working.

It’s easier to reign in when it’s just a few kilos, but if you ignore it and the weight gets more and more, it becomes a harder task, does it not? Also, other health problems may come into play. Then you not only have to make changes with how you’re dealing with food, but now you have to change how you’re going to deal with these other health problems. This compound becomes more difficult. Your options become restricted.

What do you do about if you know you need to lose weight? Instead of changing to the next fad diet that comes along, you need to change the relationship you have with food, because you know the last 20 diets didn’t work, so why would you expect something different? If you have aches and pains in your body and you have a belief that it’s just your age or it’s just a part of your life and you adhere to this, and maybe it’s even reinforced by other people telling you the same thing. The same limiting beliefs.

What if you were to change the way you think about. What if you will do things to become more flexible? Develop a more flexible body, and usually a flexible body and a flexible mind go hand and hand. Just as the same as a rigid body and a rigid mind go hand in hand and we get stuck in our ways.

As things get worse, become more complicated, our options become fewer. To the point where you have no more options. You either change or you pass a tipping point where nothing else can be done. By developing a flexible body and a flexible mind, this allows you to bend more before you’re going to break. Work easier, cope with stress more effectively.

If you’re suffering with stress, if you don’t do the necessary things to deal with stress, then as the systems become overloaded, it could turn into anxiety if you don’t deal with this effectively and pull it back to normal states of stress.

The final stage, when the resources run out more and more, this can lead into depression. This is when all resources have run out and the unconscious mind says, “I have nothing else available to you.”

Let’s look at this in the business world. There are always disruptors. We’re seeing it in the transport industry at the moment, and the resistance to women in the boardroom, from those trying to adhere to the old ways, “We have always run the system, and we won’t change. If they don’t change, they’ll have no more options and soon they’ll be out of business.

To give you an example from a book of Forbes which is going back a few years now but it’s still quite relevant. In 1987, Forbes celebrated their 70th anniversary and they put out a list of the top 500 companies. By the year 2000, just 13 years later, more than half of those companies were out of business. These were the companies that refused to change. They rested on their laurels and thought, “We’ve been successful. We don’t need to change.”

Any company that thinks “We’ve always done it that way, we’re not going to change because this is a way it is and we’ve been running the industry are in for a rude shock. Well, the disruptors have always been there. Go way back to Gutenberg. The invention of the printing press. Look how amazing the invention of the printing press was, what a great disruptor it was at the time, but how it empowered people so much.

Nowadays, we have the modern day disruptors. In the transport industry, and in the accommodation industry. Those that try and hold on those old ways, those who resist change, eventually get squeezed out because their options become fewer and fewer. Instead of resisting, play the same game, learn what the new rules are. When you take action early, this eliminates the stress because the bigger the problem gets, the more stress is involved. Then you’ve got to start putting more things into play to the point where you either change by choice or have no choice but to change.

Many people have the attitude that “If only the world would change, my life would be better”.

You see, when you change, you alter the dynamics, so people, circumstances and events have no choice but to change. This empowers you to influence things for the better.

Over in the next few years, 40% of jobs are just going to disappear. What are you going to do to stay ahead of the game? You need to be constantly looking, how can I improve things, how can I tweak this, what changes do I need to make NOW

 SO, YOU HAVE THREE OPTIONS:

 1.    Do nothing, hold on to your limiting beliefs, and think you have no control over things.

2.    Wait for the inevitable, to the point where you really do have no option but to change.

3.    Change early, when you first get the sign, empower yourself, and take control of your life.

WHAT YOU NEED TO DO

Start looking at things in your life. Take notice of what your unconscious mind is telling you. These things that are manifesting in your life. Learn to read your barometer, know what to leave and what to change. Change early, change by choice or know that you eventually have no choice but to change.

Which choice are you going to choose?

Copyright Ray Goslin